These are what I currently consider the central priorities of my life, in order of importance (kind of). I don't really have a well-thought-out philosophy on life or any generalizable insights on living it well. This list is simply an exercise in reflection. I think focusing on these things would minimize regret for the 80-year-old Vinay and increase my day-to-day life satisfaction now. I fully expect this list to evolve and change as I do myself.
PrioritiesUpdated April 2021
Cultivating and improving relationships with family and friends is the most important thing in my book. For me, this means being radically honest, communicating better, being more present, and learning to be affectionate. It also means having a better relationship with myself. I believe the quality of your relationships is inextricably linked to your self-esteem. If everything goes to shit but I still manage to have great friends, people that will be at my 73rd birthday party, I think life would be more than okay.
Freedom to me is having the ability to do more of what I want to, when I want to, with the people I want to be with. This requires good health (physical and mental) and economic freedom. This also means being more grateful, more resilient to social pressure, and more selective about my wants in life.
I want to be someone who learns more about the world and becomes better over time. The game I want to play most actively is the one that bridges the (huge) gap between my current self and aspirational one.
Doing new things, making memories, traveling to new places, meeting new people, and generally having a good time. Excitement just seems like something I should be optimizing for.
There’s a deep seated human urge to have a lasting effect on the world and other people in it. I don’t know how or what, but I do know that I want to be someone who helps.
These priorities are direct or indirect motivators of my goals—usually achievable checkpoints marking long-term progress. These goals in turn motivate my habits, deliberate routines, decisions, and projects—the levers in my control.